CarrieKingCoaching
    Small Online Groups · 8 Weeks · Live on Zoom

    Surrounded:
    Group Coaching for
    Women Untangling
    High-Control Religion

    You don’t have to do this alone.

    Coach-guided circles for faith deconstruction, rooted in the same body-first, trauma-aware framework, held with women who actually get it.

    Whether you’re questioning, no longer going to church, still attending, or somewhere in between, you are welcome here. Together we build more freedom, more agency, and a deeper trust in your body.

    The Next Circle

    $300

    all 8 weeks · about $37 a week

    • Weekly on Sundays, September 6 – November 1
    • 11am Central (9am PT / 10am MT / 12pm ET)
    • Live on Zoom · 60 minutes
    • Small, confidential group

    Spots are limited · secure checkout via Stripe

    Carrie King, certified life coach and group facilitator

    Led by Carrie King

    Certified Life Coach

    Trauma-Informed & Body-Based · 100% Confidential · Sessions Never Recorded

    Why I built Surrounded

    Read the video transcript

    I wish I’d had more of a community around me while I was deconstructing my religion. That was rough. I could feel my reality crumbling around me. I didn’t know who to trust. I felt like I was the only person going through this. I constantly felt like I was rebelling, even though I wasn’t. I missed the familiarity of my old beliefs, even though they hurt me. And the grief was a lot. What’s even real anymore? How can I possibly trust myself to make decisions? Where do I get my certainty and safety now? And I can still feel the feelings in my body twenty years later.

    I told myself that if I could make it to shore, I would help other women going through their deconstruction feel less alone. So that’s what we’re going to do. Seven years ago, I became a certified life coach. I’m putting together a small group coaching cohort of women who are deconstructing their faith. It’ll be eight weeks on Zoom, a handful of women and me. I’ll coach you through the questions, the confusion, the rebuilding. It’s guided, it’s intimate, and you’ll be doing real work alongside other women who actually get it.

    You don’t have to find your way to shore alone. Do it with us. See you there.

    Deconstruction is lonely by design.

    We’re wired to belong.

    So when questioning what a high-control religion taught you risks rejection, our bodies and nervous systems register it as a real threat.

    Maybe you’ve tried to explain your doubts to someone who doesn’t get it, and you watched their face go blank, or worse: they filed you away as “dangerous.” Maybe you’ve learned to silence your questions to keep the peace.

    Maybe you’ve been doing this entirely alone: in your head, at 2am, Googling things you’re not sure you’re even allowed to question.

    What would change if you were in a room with women asking the same questions?

    How Group Coaching Works

    Surrounded runs in small 8-week circles: you save your spot, we meet weekly on Zoom, and we do the real work together.

    1

    Save Your Spot

    Sign up, sign the group agreement, and you're in. I'll email you personally with your Zoom link and everything you need before we begin. I keep circles small so everyone has room to be seen and heard.

    2

    Show Up Weekly

    We meet live on Zoom for an hour each week, same day and same time, for all 8 weeks. I open every session with a short teaching (10-15 minutes) on a facet of faith deconstruction that matches where the circle is.

    3

    Do the Real Work Together

    Then we open the floor for questions, honest conversation, and room to share where you actually are. Confidentiality is non-negotiable, always. What is shared in the circle stays in the circle.

    What You’ll Get in a Faith Deconstruction Group

    Community that actually gets it

    Not people who are trying to understand. People who are in it. No translating, no bracing for the blank stare: just people who already speak the language. You aren't tolerated here. You're known.

    Relief from hiding

    A place where you don't have to pretend or soften it, perform certainty, or keep the peace. You can say the thing out loud you can't say anywhere else and feel what it's like to be met instead of managed.

    Permission to not have it figured out

    You don't have to land anywhere by our final session. This is a space where you get to be in-process without pressure to arrive at a tidy new set of answers. Uncertainty isn't a problem to fix here; it's allowed to just be.

    Tools you take with you

    Nervous-system practices for the hard moments, language for what actually happened to you, and a steadier relationship with your own body. You'll use what you learn here long after the circle ends.

    Who This Circle Is For

    It is for you if:

    • You're untangling the beliefs you were handed and you want to process it with people who actually get it.
    • You don't want to do this alone; you want live conversation and real community.
    • You're willing to show up, share honestly, and hear from others doing the same work.
    • Women, trans, nonbinary, and queer folks are all welcome here. You won't have to explain or defend who you are.

    It is not for you if:

    • You're in active crisis. Please start with a licensed mental health therapist (I'm happy to refer you to one if you'd like). Coaching works best when your nervous system isn't in survival mode.
    • You're looking for a ready-made belief system to step into in place of the one you left.
    • Body-based work doesn't appeal to you. This is body-first coaching all the way through.
    • You’d rather do this work one-on-one. That’s a preference, not a flaw. My 1-on-1 coaching might be your fit.
    Carrie King as a child wearing a Christ is King t-shirt

    Hi, I’m Carrie

    From birth, I was raised in high-control, evangelical, pentecostal Christianity, and the church was my whole world. I was taught the only safe people were inside the church and that everyone “outside” was dangerous. When I left, I was stunned to find the opposite was often true, and it took me years to convince my nervous system I could be safe out here.

    I’m twenty years into my own deconstruction. I’m a certified life coach, and every day, I get to work with women who have left high-control religion and are rebuilding their lives from the studs. So I can tell you, with my whole chest:

    You are not alone.
    Not even close.

    Why I Created These Circles

    Deconstruction can be lonely work. Many of us end up losing our communities and support systems as a result of untangling from high-control religion.

    I created these circles because they’re what I needed in the hardest part of my leaving: the feeling of being surrounded by others who understand the loss, the loneliness, the grief, and the relief.

    If you’d like to get to know me a little better, you can read my story on my About page.

    Carrie King

    Join the Next Circle

    $300

    all 8 weeks · about $37 a week

    • Weekly on Sundays, September 6 – November 1
    • 11am Central (9am PT / 10am MT / 12pm ET)
    • Teaching and open group conversation each week
    • Small, confidential group, live on Zoom

    Spots are limited. Secure checkout via Stripe. I’ll send you the Zoom link before we begin.

    Your Questions, Answered

    I open each session with about 10-15 minutes of teaching on a topic directly relevant to where the circle is in deconstruction. Then we open the floor for conversation, questions, and connection. It's structured enough to feel purposeful and loose enough to go where the group needs to go. More than anything, it's an hour where you're not doing this alone.

    For each circle, we meet weekly for 8 weeks, 60 minutes a session, same day of the week, same time.

    We meet on Zoom. It's free; you can sign up for an account here. You don't need a paid Zoom plan to join. I'll email you the meeting link 24 hours before our session, and clicking it brings you straight into our room. You'll use the same Zoom link to enter each session. If you've never used Zoom before, reach out and I'll happily help you get set up beforehand.

    I keep every circle intentionally small so everyone can feel heard and held.

    Cameras on is strongly encouraged, and here's why: this is connection work, and faces are how a circle becomes people instead of names on a screen. I will never force anyone's camera on, and stepping away for a moment is just life. If keeping your camera off every week feels safest, reach out to me before you enroll; let's talk about whether a circle is the right fit for where you are.

    No. I'll never force anyone to speak. Conversation in a circle flows naturally, so I might ask you something the way anyone in a real conversation would. But some weeks you'll have a lot to say, and some weeks listening is the work. Both are welcome.

    Yes. Confidentiality is a foundational agreement for every circle: what's shared in the circle stays in the circle. Every member signs a coaching agreement that includes full confidentiality before joining. Sessions are never recorded, and no one is allowed to record.

    Most people haven't. You don't need any prior experience; just show up where you are. People usually find it easier to open up than they expected because everyone in the room is carrying something similar.

    Of course you are. You were taught that questioning has consequences, and your body remembers that. Fear here is not a sign you're doing something wrong; it's evidence of how heavy the stakes have always felt. All of your feelings are welcome in the circle, including the uncomfortable ones. Nearly everyone doing this work feels what you're feeling right now. And this is your choice, at your pace. No one here will push you anywhere you don't choose to go.

    No. Coaching isn't about handing you conclusions. My job is to help you hear yourself, not to replace one voice of authority with another.

    No. I have no finish line in mind for your beliefs. People in these circles land everywhere: some leave, some stay, some build something entirely new. This work isn't anti-faith or anti-church. It's about strengthening your relationship with yourself and your body until you can tell your own voice from the programming and choose what's right for you from there.

    No. High-control religion works the same way almost everywhere: the same rules about obedience, the same fear of questioning, the same cost for stepping out of line. If you're untangling any high-control tradition, the work we do here applies. I'll be honest with you, though: my own background is Christian, so that's the world I know from the inside and where my coaching runs deepest. You're welcome here either way, and you get to decide if it feels like a fit.

    No. This is coaching, not therapy and not a substitute for mental health treatment. If you're in active crisis or working with trauma that requires clinical care, I'll encourage you to work with a licensed therapist first (let me know if you need a referral). Coaching works best when your nervous system isn't in survival mode, and therapy can help you get there. What we do in coaching is build self-awareness, language, and tools for the journey.

    Both share the honesty and the sense of community, but this is coaching. A support group is usually peer-led: people share, no one guides, and there's no teaching. In a circle, I facilitate every session as a certified life coach, open with a short teaching, and coach the group through what comes up. You get the community feeling of a support group plus the structure and momentum of coaching.

    The course (Faith Deconstruction 101) is something you do on your own, at your own pace. Group coaching is live, relational, and responsive. You're not just working through material by yourself; you're in conversation with a small group of women who are living the same questions.

    There's no required order. The course is self-paced and something you do on your own. Group coaching is live and communal. Start with whichever matches what you need right now, or do both at once. They're designed to work together.

    Life happens. If you have to miss a week, just let me know. Sessions aren't recorded, to protect the circle's privacy, so a missed week can't be replayed, but I'll help you step back in.

    If something comes up before the circle begins, reach out and let me know. Once we're underway, the rate is non-refundable, but I'll always work with you in good faith.

    Don’t see your question here? Reach out. I’d love to answer it.

    You are not alone.

    You get to decide what comes next.
    If a circle is that next step, I’d be honored to walk it with you.

    Group coaching is a coaching and educational program, not therapy or a substitute for professional mental health care. Carrie is a certified life coach, not a licensed therapist. If you are in crisis or struggling with trauma or PTSD, please reach out to a mental health therapist. In the US, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). Recovering from Religion also runs a support hotline staffed by people who understand questioning and leaving faith.