CarrieKingCoaching

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    A free space for women untangling high-control religion

    Once a week, women who have left or are leaving high-control religion meet on Zoom and say the things we might not be able to say anywhere else.

    Untangling Sunday Discussion GroupSeason 1

    We meet Sundays, August 30 to October 4, for 60 minutes on Zoom. Add your name below and I'll email you the link. It's free, and you can come to as many or as few as you like.

    12pm Central · 10am Pacific · 11am Mountain · 1pm Eastern

    • Sunday, August 30
    • Sunday, September 6
    • Sunday, September 13
    • Sunday, September 20
    • Sunday, September 27
    • Sunday, October 4

    What it looks like

    I'll bring one small thing to start us off, and then we talk. Some weeks, we'll break into small groups to discuss and connect. Mostly, I want you to meet each other. Because deconstruction is lonely, and all of us need community.

    Come when you can

    Come every week or come once. Miss a month and come back. The door is open whenever you want to walk through it.

    How it runs

    We meet in seasons: six weeks together, then we take a couple weeks off, then we start again.

    Who's here

    Women, trans, nonbinary, and queer folks are all welcome here. You won't have to explain or defend who you are. You're welcome whether you left years ago, left last month, or are still going to church. Whether you've left, are planning on leaving, or staying.

    What's the end goal?

    Community and connection. Less confusion. "Me too"s. More self-trust. To feel less alone.

    Who I am

    I'm a certified life coach who helps women untangle from high-control religion so they can create lives on their terms, with creativity and agency. I started deconstructing 20 years ago, and when I left, I felt confused and alone, and I never want anyone to feel how I felt.

    Carrie as a kid with braces, wearing a black t-shirt with the Calvin Klein logo altered to read Christ is King
    Me in 1997In high-control religion
    Carrie now, smiling, outdoors
    Me nowBuilding a life that's mine

    The Agreements: How We Hold This Room

    Take the lessons, leave the stories, the names, and the details. We agree to keep what we hear confidential, so this stays a place people can speak freely.

    When someone shares, you don't have to solve it. Most of us were trained to hand people answers. Here we practice listening instead. If you want advice, ask for it. If someone doesn't ask for advice, don't give it.

    Use "I" rather than "we" or "you should."

    Some of us have left. Some of us still believe. Some don't know yet. This isn't a place to be talked out of belief or back into it.

    If words come easily to you, make sure you're leaving room for others who also want to share. If they don't, consider this an open door to take up space. Either way, you're wanted here.

    You never have to speak. Listening is full participation. "I'll pass" (and "no") is a complete sentence.

    Camera on or off. Your first name or a name you choose. It's up to you. Some of us aren't out about this yet, and that's respected here.

    Not the video, not the chat, not a photo of your screen.

    If a book, podcast, or therapist helped you, feel free to mention it. What doesn't belong here is using this space to sell your own work or mostly joining to find customers. Me included: I'll briefly mention my paid coaching once and only at the end of the meeting.

    I'm a certified life coach, not a therapist. If you are in crisis and need more support than a group can give, tell me and I'll help you find it.

    I can promise you how I'll hold this room. I can't promise that ten strangers will never disappoint you. What I can tell you is that anyone who breaks these agreements doesn't get to stay. If you felt unsafe during any of our meetings or in the breakout rooms, please reach out to me, and I'll address it. You don't have to stay anywhere that feels unsafe.

    This is a peer community space, not therapy or a substitute for professional mental health care. Carrie is a certified life coach, not a licensed therapist. If you are in crisis or struggling with trauma or PTSD, please reach out to a mental health therapist. In the US, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). Recovering from Religion also runs a support hotline staffed by people who understand leaving faith.