12-Week Course
Self-Belonging:
A Beginner’s Field Guide
to Faith Deconstruction
A gentle, 12-week guide for those who feel confused, disillusioned, or heartbroken by the church and want to come home to themselves.
Faith Deconstruction 101
$79
all 12 weeks
- A coaching video and downloadable workbook each week
- Delivered to your inbox, one new chapter a week
- 12 chapters over 12 weeks, at your own pace
No credit card needed.
Full course: secure checkout via Stripe · refundable within 14 days.
A 1-minute intro to the course
If you’re here, something has cracked.
Maybe you’ve started noticing things you can’t un-notice.
Maybe a belief you were handed suddenly doesn’t hold.
Maybe you’re grieving a God, a community, a version of yourself,
and the people around you don’t understand, or worse, think you’ve lost your way.
Maybe you just can’t make yourself believe anymore, even though you’ve tried.
You might feel confused. Disoriented. Angry. Numb.
Guilty for even having these thoughts.
Here’s what no one told me when I started deconstructing:
However you’re feeling, it’s okay.
And you don’t need to be further along than you are.
Hi, I’m Carrie
From birth, I was raised in high-control, evangelical, pentecostal Christianity, and the church was my whole world. I was taught the only safe people were inside the church and that everyone “outside” was dangerous. When I left, I was stunned to find the opposite was often true, and it took me years to convince my nervous system I could be safe out here.
I’m twenty years into my own deconstruction. I’m a certified life coach, and every day, I get to work with women who have left high-control religion and are rebuilding their lives from the studs. So I can tell you, with my whole chest:
You are not alone.
Not even close.
Why I Built This Guide
Spiritual deconstruction is often confusing, disorienting, and lonely. I built this guide because it’s what I wished I had when I started deconstructing: a roadmap for walking myself through one of the hardest, most confusing times in my life and a set of tools for rebuilding joy and self-trust on the other side.
The key is building a gentle, loving relationship with yourself.
If you’d like to get to know me a little better, you can read my story on my About page.
What This Is
Self-Belonging is a 12-week guided journey through the early, disorienting work of deconstructing your faith, built to keep you steady while you do it.
This work is trauma-informed and body-based. In plain terms: I won’t ask you to dig into the most painful memories on day one. We start by helping your nervous system feel safe and resourced, since no real healing happens from a place of panic. We build your steadiness first. Only then, gently and at your own pace, do we move into the heavier parts. You’ll never be thrown into the deep end. We wade in together, slowly, with your body leading the way.
The 12-Week Journey
You’ll move through four movements, in an order built to protect your nervous system: settle first, understand next, nurture, then rebuild.
GROUND (Weeks 1 to 3): You're safe to go slow.
- Week 1:Introduction: Showing Up to the Work
- Week 2:Building Safety & Resourcing
- Week 3:Listening to the Body
UNDERSTAND (Weeks 4 to 6): Making sense of the harm.
- Week 4:High-Control Dynamics & All-or-Nothing Programming
- Week 5:How You Were Separated From Your Body & Feelings
- Week 6:Spiritual Bypassing: Words That Comfort or Silence
NURTURE (Weeks 7 to 9): Coming home to yourself.
- Week 7:Grief & Anger: Feeling What Was Taken
- Week 8:Becoming Your Own Loving Parent
- Week 9:Self-Trust & Nuance: Rebuilding Your Inner Authority
RECLAIM (Weeks 10 to 12): Building the life that's actually yours.
- Week 10:Patriarchy & The Good Christian Girl™
- Week 11:From Fawning to Agency: Reclaiming Your Choices
- Week 12:Rebuilding: Letting Your Joy Lead
Start when you’re ready
$79
all 12 weeks
No credit card needed.
Full refund within 14 days,
no questions asked.
Who This Guide Is For
It is for you if:
- You've ever felt confused, disillusioned, angry, or heartbroken by the church
- You've left the church or you still attend, either way
- You're in any stage of your faith deconstruction journey
- You're ready to develop a kind, loving, and nurturing relationship with yourself
- You're a woman, trans, nonbinary, or queer. However you identify, you are welcome here
It is not for you if:
- You're in active crisis. Start with a trauma-informed therapist (I can recommend one), and come back when you feel more stable.
- You're looking for a ready-made belief system to step into. This course helps connect you with what you want, not trade one handed-to-you framework for another.
- You're hoping to skip the hard parts. We go slowly and gently, but we do go there.
Your Questions, Answered
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
You’re right where you need to be.
Come walk the first 12 weeks with me at your own pace.
No credit card needed.
Self-Belonging is a coaching and educational program, not therapy or a substitute for professional mental health care. Carrie is a certified life coach, not a licensed therapist. If you are in crisis or struggling with trauma or PTSD, please reach out to a mental health therapist. In the US, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). Recovering from Religion also runs a support hotline staffed by people who understand leaving faith.